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[Surfah]

Nope. Hard to quantify why exactly, but having gone to both I prefer the men. Maybe a less superior and more academic tone when I ask questions.

I've actually heard women say that men were more gentle. In part, because they're not women and don't want to hurt them.

I could care less about a woman doc or male doc seeing my cock and balls. That isn't the issue. I just want someone more familiar with the organ than some slides in college and/or a romp in the back seat of a car would provide.

[FN Phat]

There are all kinds of professionals. If you were captain and picking teams for a basketball game and had your choice between an NBA player and a WNBA player who'd you pick?

If they are equal to the task, I don't care. Your example above is not an accurate one b/c we all know that the last man on the list in the NBA is far better than the best in the WNBA.

CMBF said it best, in our experience after child birth and all that that entails, I am not sure that it matters much.

[Color Me Badd Fan]

Let me just say that I'd be unfit to ever be a gynecologist. I'd try to limit my practice to only 18-35 year old women and that would be a truly kick-ass job for the first little while.

However, wouldn't the job eventually just hurt your sex life with your wife? Do you become so clinical that the sight of your wife's body ceases to turn you on since you see it all day? Or would seeing it all day and not being able to do anything about it make you come home and be uber-horny on a daily basis?

See ladies, this is why you don't want a male gynecologist. You might get someone like me.

[Surfah]

Let me just say that I'd be unfit to ever be a gynecologist. I'd try to limit my practice to only 18-35 year old women and that would be a truly kick-ass job for the first little while.

However, wouldn't the job eventually just hurt your sex life with your wife? Do you become so clinical that the sight of your wife's body ceases to turn you on since you see it all day? Or would seeing it all day and not being able to do anything about it make you come home and be uber-horny on a daily basis?

See ladies, this is why you don't want a male gynecologist. You might get someone like me.

Like most doctors, I am sure gynos are often visited when there is something wrong. I don't think that would make anyone horny.

[beelzebabette]

See ladies, this is why you don't want a male gynecologist. You might get someone like me.

I'd rather have you as a gynecologist than a husband.

[Surfah]

I'd rather have you as a gynecologist than a husband.

I just snorted some chicken and broccoli.

[FN Phat]

Like most doctors, I am sure gynos are often visited when there is something wrong. I don't think that would make anyone horny.

Exactly. No thank you, you can have it CMBF

[Color Me Badd Fan]

I've actually heard women say that men were more gentle. In part, because they're not women and don't want to hurt them.

I could care less about a woman doc or male doc seeing my cock and balls. That isn't the issue. I just want someone more familiar with the organ than some slides in college and/or a romp in the back seat of a car would provide.

The actual OB at my wife's doctor's office was far more gentle than the assistants. There is definitely some truth to that.

I haven't had a physical for 13 years, I'm long overdue. The last time I had one done was in preparation for my mission. Some dude checked me out and when I lowered my pants, I flatly said "Oh, my favorite part." The doctor simply said, "trust me, it's no picnic for me." In all honesty, I'd probably rather have a female doctor check me out next time. I know they're professionals, but I just don't want a dude touching me.

[Color Me Badd Fan]

I'd rather have you as a gynecologist than a husband.

lol

[RobinFinderson]

Last night I tried to expand the conversation into some different directions. I responded to a post, and then expanded my thoughts. The person I responded to took my thoughts as a personal criticism, and the ensuing back and forth buried my thoughts beneath a thin layer of CUF's finest fluff.

So I offer those thoughts again, sanitized of any reference to the beleaguered.

Robin's thoughts on intimacy, not to be misconstrued as a personal attack:

I think Americans oversimplify male sexuality. I think most men want true sexual intimacy as well as intimacy in general. Exclusivity and intimacy are not mutually exclusive, though if anyone has too much going on in their lives, whether job related or having too many lovers, it will probably put a damper on intimacy (which is a product of time spent together).

Security in a relationship as a notion that a woman needs to "believe that all his needs are being met in her" is an extremely tenuous condition, and not one I would recommend to anyone who hopes to make a relationship last a lifetime. Here is a basic rule of thumb -- reality dictates that none of us will ever be (nor should we try to be) our partner's everything.

I think, for a vast majority of people, a life-partner will not meet all of his/her needs. Security shouldn't be built on such an unrealistic expectation. I offer as a more realistic concept of security the idea that the strength of a relationship is a product of intimacy.

Intimacy is something that can never be replaced, and is therefore unassailable by porn, affairs, or anything else. Intimacy is what keeps European marriages sound in spite of 'cheating.' I've been married now to Faith for more than thirteen years. I am continually surprised to learn new things about Faith, and what makes her tick. The longer we know each other, the more I learn, and I expect to continue to learn about Faith well into our twilight years. Learning about each other, in the most profound ways, is intimacy. Sexual intimacy is just one offshoot of total intimacy, and probably one of the more shallow fields of intimate exploration. Intimacy means knowing each other deeply.

The threat to intimacy isn't porn or affairs. The real threat to intimacy is boredom, and boredom sets in when we fail to cultivate curiosity. It was probably last week when I complimented DDD by calling him a hedonist, and then went on to clarify that I thought it was pretty cool that he had developed 'taste.' Taste is the ability to appreciate nuance, and it is a form of intellectual curiosity. Likewise, cultivating the kind of intimacy that will continue to surprise for a lifetime is a similar kind of intellectual curiosity. It also requires the appreciation of increasingly refined levels of nuance that reveal themselves over time. As long as Faith and I continue to cultivate the kind of curiosity that leaves us wondering what the next year will hold in store for us in our life of adventure, I have little doubt that our intimacy will grow deeper, as will the roots of our relationship.

Porn is about orgasms, and orgasms have very little to do with real intimacy. I don't hide my interest in porn from Faith, because we know that it just doesn't mean anything. I would always prefer being with Faith, but some times she isn't interested. I respect that, which is why, when I'm interested and she isn't, I don't trouble her about that. I don't whine, "But honey, a man has neeeeds!" I give her a kiss and send her on her way to do whatever it is she would rather do at the moment besides being with me. No big deal.

[myboynoah]

I'd rather have you as a gynecologist than a husband.

I just snorted some chicken and broccoli.

Yeah, that was excellent.

[Color Me Badd Fan]

Like most doctors, I am sure gynos are often visited when there is something wrong. I don't think that would make anyone horny.

Well, exactly. Since you can't limit your practice to 18-35 year olds, you'll be dealing with the full age range. Additionally, not every appointment will be for the purpose of some healthy female getting a checkup in order to get birth control pills. I was (kind of) joking about the horniness part, but I wasn't joking about the clinical part. I would think there would be a real threat of something like that happening.

[scottie]

Well, exactly. Since you can't limit your practice to 18-35 year olds, you'll be dealing with the full age range. Additionally, not every appointment will be for the purpose of some healthy female getting a checkup in order to get birth control pills. I was (kind of) joking about the horniness part, but I wasn't joking about the clinical part. I would think there would be a real threat of something like that happening.

Dentists can sometimes have problems with the horniness issue as well: http://www.sacbee.com/ourregion/story/1543528.html

One told the jury that the dentist brushed her nipple with his finger.

Another said Anderson slipped his hand beneath her bra and laid it on her breast.

A third said he reached both hands inside her bra and massaged her chest.

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"He would tell me … that he was an elder in the Mormon church," she said.

The third witness said she had been suffering severe headaches, and that Anderson rubbed her neck and shoulders, but "mainly my chest."

On Valentine's Day 2007, she said, he reached beneath her bra and massaged her breasts with both hands.

"He just said it was part of treatment to test if my muscles were tight," she said.

[Babs]

I think most women are indifferent to gender for their OB/GYN. I'd be interested in seeing some studies. I don't really care, but I just don't understand why you'd want a doctor who specializes in an organ that he/she doesn't have. I'll never see a female urologist for example (I understand that the field encompasses women too, but still).

Not me. Studies show that male OBGYNs are more likely to induce, more likely to perform episiotomies, more likely to perform C-section, and so on.

[Surfah]

Not me. Studies show that male OBGYNs are more likely to induce, more likely to perform episiotomies, more likely to perform C-section, and so on.

That may be true. I am looking for a study on the gender preference for women, not what those genders practicing do.

I don't think Gidget ever had a female OB/GYN until we were married. I don't care. It's her stuff. I am all for whomever she feels most comfortable with. I sat in on her last yearly test. I'm glad I am a male.