Conference open thread

[Surfah]

I'm with you here Surfah.

It's one thing to be in close circles of decisions of a single child, but once they are married, it is time to get out the way.

Sure volunteer advice when asked, but they need to make decisions with they spouse. Bringing in parents often causes trouble and friction. Obviously if there is abuse or other problems, this doesn't apply, but I think it does when deciding when one should have children.

Hopefully you trained them right beforehand.


I have one other point on this. Sometimes God decides without you or your spouse that it is time to have a kid. I always offer that warning in church when people mention that the spirit tells us when to have kids. SOMETIME HE DOESN'T AND THEY COME JUST THE SAME.

Exactly, family planning isn't an exact science.

[TripletDaddy]

So all this advice to not get married early and to not be pressured into having kids....you realize it is the opposite side of the same coin, no? in essence, you are doing exactly the thing which you are condemning.

Have a nice day, everyone. Go Cougars!

[byu71]

I smile at the fathers comments and what they are going to have their daughters do when it comes to marriage. I am no psychologist, but my guess is if you have final say on whom your daughter can or can't marry and she allows your control, your son-in-law is going to be in for a rude awakening.

[The_Tick]

I view "eating bon bons" when describing "unemployed" women as being deriding. It carries the same taint of stereotypically maligned foods when used to describe other demographic groups.

Waup...you are the ACLU of CUF.

[Surfah]

Perhaps. I am not sure, though. weak!

Speaking of random brands, remember that candy that you could generally only buy at movie theaters...it was called "Flicks" and came in this shiny cardboard tube, much like the center of a toilet paper roll. There were green tubes and red tubes. It was basically filled with hershey kiss type crap and I never bought them, but I always remember them as part of growing up here in SoCal.

I did a little research and I was not making things up. Edy's/Dreyers made and marketed Bon Bons. Little frozen chocolate covered ice cream treats. They have since renamed them as Dibs. Whew. I thought I was losing it.

[The_Tick]

So all this advice to not get married early and to not be pressured into having kids....you realize it is the opposite side of the same coin, no? in essence, you are doing exactly the thing which you are condemning.

Have a nice day, everyone. Go Cougars!

I understand what you are saying...but currently it is my time to provide council to her where I see fit.

In two years she may tell me to pound sand. And she would be right. I recognize that.

If she gets married in 9 months and decides to get pregnant right away that is her choice and I will support her in that.

We will no longer financially support her at that point. That is our choice.

It may appear as a "take my ball and go home stance", and maybe it is. But my thought is that if you are responsible enough to have children, you shouldn't need financial help from your parents.

[Mrs. Funk]

Exactly, family planning isn't an exact science.

I've been taking little pink pills for three years now. They have worked like a charm so far!

[byu71]

I understand what you are saying...but currently it is my time to provide council to her where I see fit.

In two years she may tell me to pound sand. And she would be right. I recognize that.

If she gets married in 9 months and decides to get pregnant right away that is her choice and I will support her in that.

We will no longer financially support her at that point. That is our choice.

It may appear as a "take my ball and go home stance", and maybe it is. But my thought is that if you are responsible enough to have children, you shouldn't need financial help from your parents.

I am an advocate of the "take my ball and go home stance". If the kids are going to get my financial support, they are going to get and take my advice. Unconditional love as far as I am concerned doesn't involve money, it involves emotional support and more important, leaving them alone to make their decisions should they want it that way.

[byu71]

I've been taking little pink pills for three years now. They have worked like a charm so far!

Funk says he has been taking "blue" ones. Seems you guys are spending money on drugs with cross purposes.

[Mrs. Funk]

Funk says he has been taking "blue" ones. Seems you guys are spending money on drugs with cross purposes.

Hey! I thought narcotics decreased sperm count!

[TripletDaddy]

I understand what you are saying...but currently it is my time to provide council to her where I see fit.

In two years she may tell me to pound sand. And she would be right. I recognize that.

If she gets married in 9 months and decides to get pregnant right away that is her choice and I will support her in that.

We will no longer financially support her at that point. That is our choice.

It may appear as a "take my ball and go home stance", and maybe it is. But my thought is that if you are responsible enough to have children, you shouldn't need financial help from your parents.

I got married in grad school and was married for almost 7 years before we had children, so I am not opposed to the advice. Just pointing out that the advice is really the same type of coercion/peer pressure that might come from the opposite side of the aisle. Kids are generally smart enough to sniff out that sort of contradiction.

I will also dole out unsolicited advice to my children when they take off for school.

[MarkGrace]

I did a little research and I was not making things up. Edy's/Dreyers made and marketed Bon Bons. Little frozen chocolate covered ice cream treats. They have since renamed them as Dibs. Whew. I thought I was losing it.

I had no idea Bon Bons were re-branded as Dibs. I like Dibs a lot, we get them all the time at the movies.

[byu71]

Hey! I thought narcotics decreased sperm count!

I didn't know they had narcotics in them. Is that why you can't get them over the counter.

[Mrs. Funk]

I didn't know they had narcotics in them. Is that why you can't get them over the counter.

Now you're just being cheeky.

[byu71]

Now you're just being cheeky.

Seriously, I didn't. If they have narcotics in them, couldn't they become habit forming. Why aren't kids buying them and selling them for more money like they do Lori tab or oxycotten.