How do I tell my wife I've lost my testimony?

[Colly Wolly]

Seriously. Looking for guidance and advice here.

[Sizzle]

Make her watch the replay on BYUTV and she will understand.

[Jeff Lebowski]

I hope your wife has locked the medicine cabinet. And the gun safe.

[Colly Wolly]

I hope your wife has locked the medicine cabinet. And the gun safe.

Suicide hasn't crossed my mind. I feel almost liberated. I know for sure I will when we have the conversation, at least I hope I will depending on how she reacts.

[YOhio]

I hope your wife has locked the medicine cabinet. And the gun safe.

Unless that's where he put his testimony. She locks the cabinet and safe and then he for sure won't be able to find it.

[Colly Wolly]

Unless that's where he put his testimony. She locks the cabinet and safe and then he for sure won't be able to find it.

This is not a laughing matter.

[NorthwestUteFan]

My dad, the bishop, just called his former business partner, now a mission president, to enjoy the hell out of this game.

As soon as you all learn to disconnect football from the church you will all feel a great burden has been lifted and you will have joy.

Inthenameof Jesus Christ, amen.

I sure with tomorrow was F&T meeting...

[Colly Wolly]

My dad, the bishop, just called his former business partner, now a mission president, to enjoy the hell out of this game.

As soon as you all learn to disconnect football from the church you will all feel a great burden has been lifted and you will have joy.

Inthenameof Jesus Christ, amen.

This has nothing to do with football.

[Slim]

She really has no idea already? Is she "all in" as far as you know?

[Colly Wolly]

She really has no idea already? Is she "all in" as far as you know?

She goes through the motions devoutly, but she doesn't really ponder or search for meaning in the doctrine. She likes the social aspect, and feels a sense of duty to go to Church. My duty to her and our kids keeps me going a little more than half the time.

[NorthwestUteFan]

This has nothing to do with football.

The proximity to the game caused me to make the assumption, and I apologize.

Maybe you can tell her you got a 10% raise and you get to wear comfortable clothes?

Other than that, just tell her how you honestly feel. Lay out your reasons, but don't batter her over the head with your concerns in an attempt to force her to understand your reasons. The journey may take a long time.

I am not entirely certain where i stand right now, myself. Perhaps you can lay out the portions wherein you still believe and build common ground on those. Journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step, or something.

[NorthwestUteFan]

She goes through the motions devoutly, but she doesn't really ponder or search for meaning in the doctrine. She likes the social aspect, and feels a sense of duty to go to Church. My duty to her and our kids keeps me going a little more than half the time.

You and I are in nearly the same place.

Have the discussion. Perhaps she will see your side, or you will come to her side.

[Green Monstah]

Dont drop the bomb all at once. Let her down slowly and choose your words carefully.

Depending on how strong her belief in the church is, your lack of belief may make her feel betrayed and hurt. Try to remember how you used to feel when you learned that a friend or acquaintance lost faith or left the church. Thats how she may feel times 100.

Also, dont make any sudden decisions regarding your membership status. I have almost no testimony, but I feel very strongly that God wants me involved in the LDS church. Best of luck.

[UtahDan]

Well first are you sure you want to tell her? Can you give a us a bit more about her, about the two of you, what she already knows? This is a step that could shape the course of the rest of your life. You need to think hard about this.

[Sullyute]

read this thread first. You may decide that telling your wife is not the best thing to do...