Polygamy justification?

[Moliere]

I don't think it's so illogical (esp. depending on how old you are when your wife dies).

If my wife were to die while I had kids in the house, I wouldn't marry a person with kids or who wanted kids. Having gone down the whole step-sibling route, I'm not sure I want that for my children, and I'm not particularly interested in having more children.

How many LDS women are either childless or don't want kids, but want to get hitched? Not very many, I'd imagine.

Of course, this is all hypothetical (in case Mrs. RedSox is watching).

If I were older (kids grown), I could see myself marrying an LDS woman.

Yes, part of my reasoning was that the pool of eligible women would be very small and frankly I'd be too busy to court someone. The last thing I would want is to enter into a relationship too quickly. I think ultimately I'd take a much less demanding job, which coupled with the life insurance money would tide me over for 15 years or so until the kids are fully grown. Then I'd worry about other things like marriage and such.

I guess I'm just trying to point out the illogical nature of my thinking that is influenced by the prospect of eternal marriage.

[Indy Coug]

So let's take a scenario where your first sealed spouse passes away when you are in your thirties. Later on, you marry another wonderful person who spends 50+ years of wonderful marriage with you. Why would also being sealed to that person be troubling to anyone?

[Green Monstah]

So let's take a scenario where your first sealed spouse passes away when you are in your thirties. Later on, you marry another wonderful person who spends 50+ years of wonderful marriage with you. Why would also being sealed to that person be troubling to anyone?

It creates an interesting dynamic with the kids. Sometimes it goes incredibly smoothly...sometimes not.

And then there's the Fiddler on the Roof issue.

[Moliere]

So let's take a scenario where your first sealed spouse passes away when you are in your thirties. Later on, you marry another wonderful person who spends 50+ years of wonderful marriage with you. Why would also being sealed to that person be troubling to anyone?

Why wouldn't it be troubling to the deceased wife?

[Indy Coug]

Why wouldn't it be troubling to the deceased wife?

Why would it?

[Green Monstah]

Why would it?

Are you married?

I think it's hard for nearly any woman when her spouse or ex-husband become intimate with another woman. And if it's true that the "same spirit that possessed our bodies" during life continues on post mortem, I think it's reasonable to think that a woman may take issue with her husband being involved with another woman.

There may be no better example than my wife.

[Moliere]

Why would it?

Well, I can't speak from a woman's point of view, but from my point of view I'd be upset if I came home one day and found my wife making out with some guy on the couch. I'd be even more upset when I find out they are married (without my consent although I'd never give it anyway) and she's invited him to stay in the house and she'll be alternating beds every night.

If that isn't troubling to you then I have no idea what else to say.

[falafel]

So let's take a scenario where your first sealed spouse passes away when you are in your thirties. Later on, you marry another wonderful person who spends 50+ years of wonderful marriage with you. Why would also being sealed to that person be troubling to anyone?

My best friend's younger sister was sealed to her high school boyfriend. He was then killed within a year of their marriage in a motorcycle accident. No kids. Several years later, she remarried someone else in the temple (cancelled previous sealing?). The first husband's family was livid, apparently expecting that she'd stay single for the rest of her life.

[Indy Coug]

Well, I can't speak from a woman's point of view, but from my point of view I'd be upset if I came home one day and found my wife making out with some guy on the couch. I'd be even more upset when I find out they are married (without my consent although I'd never give it anyway) and she's invited him to stay in the house and she'll be alternating beds every night.

If that isn't troubling to you then I have no idea what else to say.

Wouldn't you also be doing these things if you were just married civilly? Are you saying that no one should remarry at all?

[Green Monstah]

My best friend's younger sister was sealed to her high school boyfriend. He was then killed within a year of their marriage in a motorcycle accident. No kids. Several years later, she remarried someone else in the temple (cancelled previous sealing?). The first husband's family was livid, apparently expecting that she'd stay single for the rest of her life.

I've seen the same, only the man who died had leukemia during the couple's entire courtship and marriage. The family of the man felt that she knew what she was getting into when she married and felt that she was undercutting his chance at the CK. Pretty shortsighted, but these feelings of betrayal are real and run even deeper with children oftentimes.

[falafel]

Wouldn't you also be doing these things if you were just married civilly? Are you saying that no one should remarry at all?

No, you wouldn't.

[Indy Coug]

No, you wouldn't.

So when you remarry civilly, you don't make out on the couch or sleep in the bedroom with your new spouse?

[Moliere]

Wouldn't you also be doing these things if you were just married civilly? Are you saying that no one should remarry at all?

Yes, but the whole dichotomy is formed around LDS doctrine of sealings and the eternities. The only difference being that I'd only be sealed to one person. I'm not saying anything, I'm just pointing out how illogical it all makes me think.

[Indy Coug]

What I was trying to flesh out here (obviously not very effectively) was what the preconceived notions are of what form relationships take (sexual and otherwise) in the hereafter compared to how they function in mortality.

[falafel]

So when you remarry civilly, you don't make out on the couch or sleep in the bedroom with your new spouse?

Not while your other spouse is around.

EJ's point (as I understand it) is that getting remarried to an LDS woman has implications beyond this life. Its more like you've gone on a really long business trip only to return your house to find your wife with a new husband whom she expects you to accept and share her with. After all, she needed someone to help her while you were gone. Now you're back, but the other guy's staying too.