How do you feel about this LDS therapist's advice?

[Commando]

Why is that word so hard for people to spell? Masturbation. With a u, not an e. And yes, mastrobation was the best attempt yet.

I find the widespread inability to spell masturbation the most disturbing thing about those comments.

[CardiacCoug]

Her post on men having a"pornography problem" is pretty interesting too.

What is my role? My husband is addicted to pornography…

Pretty balanced response, IMO.

Yeah, not a bad response.

Man though the questioner is a messed up woman. Giving her husband sex every Monday? Worried that her husband will be aroused by her? No wonder the husband turned to porn.

[marsupial]

I find the widespread inability to spell masturbation the most disturbing thing about those comments.

In addition to blindness and dead kittens, masturbation leads to poor spelling.

[marsupial]

Yeah, not a bad response.

Man though the questioner is a messed up woman. Giving her husband sex every Monday? Worried that her husband will be aroused by her? No wonder the husband turned to porn.

It's a sad commentary on the messages of morality received by the members of the church.

If you click ahead, there is a question from a man who is afraid that his wife is being too seductive... that she is becoming pornography.

http://www.patheos.com/blogs/mormont...seductive.html

[CardiacCoug]

It's a sad commentary on the messages of morality received by the members of the church.

If you click ahead, there is a question from a man who is afraid that his wife is being too seductive... that she is becoming pornography.

http://www.patheos.com/blogs/mormont...seductive.html

It's interesting the way this therapist gives advice that would be acceptable to even pretty orthodox LDS folks. In another one she advises couples that have a hard time getting revved up for sex to read "erotic poetry" or watch the movie The Notebook (rated PG-13).

[LA Ute]

It's a sad commentary on the messages of morality received by the members of the church.

If you click ahead, there is a question from a man who is afraid that his wife is being too seductive... that she is becoming pornography.

http://www.patheos.com/blogs/mormont...seductive.html

I choose to believe that these folks are outliers. I don't want to believe they are not.

[marsupial]

I choose to believe that these folks are outliers. I don't want to believe they are not.

You can believe what you like but I don't think that tremendous guilt surrounding masturbation for Mormon women is reserved only for the outliers. I doubt the wife's reaction to her husband's porn use is outside of the norm for Mormon women either. And from many comments I have heard over the years from Mormon women and from you guys on the board about your wives, I am under the impression that too many Mormon women are not enjoying sex like they should. I suspect the reason for this is because they simply don't know how to enjoy sex. Some mistakenly think that it's really not even something they are supposed to enjoy. It's actually really sad to me that the messages these women have received all their lives on morality have made them miss out on one of life's most amazing experiences.

[mUUser]

This is one of those threads to bookmark and refer back to when you need a little pick-me-up on the circumstances of your own life/mind. Why do people do this to themselves?

[Commando]

Mr. Kellogg thought sex was the ultimate abomination and remained celibate even in marriage.

Wow- this certainly shines a light on Kellogg's cereals as vessels of sexual repression bearing overt subconscious euphamism! Let's look at the list:

Apple Jacks
Froot Loops
Pop Tarts
Special K


It certainly brings that Eddie Murphy routine into focus.

[Commando]

You can believe what you like but I don't think that tremendous guilt surrounding masturbation for Mormon women is reserved only for the outliers. I doubt the wife's reaction to her husband's porn use is outside of the norm for Mormon women either. And from many comments I have heard over the years from Mormon women and from you guys on the board about your wives, I am under the impression that too many Mormon women are not enjoying sex like they should. I suspect the reason for this is because they simply don't know how to enjoy sex. Some mistakenly think that it's really not even something they are supposed to enjoy. It's actually really sad to me that the messages these women have received all their lives on morality have made them miss out on one of life's most amazing experiences.

Where do they dig up these women? I've never dated a girl who wasn't a freak.

[jay santos]

I'm bothered by this line from the therapist's bio: "I graduated from BYU-Provo".

[LA Ute]

You can believe what you like but I don't think that tremendous guilt surrounding masturbation for Mormon women is reserved only for the outliers. I doubt the wife's reaction to her husband's porn use is outside of the norm for Mormon women either. And from many comments I have heard over the years from Mormon women and from you guys on the board about your wives, I am under the impression that too many Mormon women are not enjoying sex like they should. I suspect the reason for this is because they simply don't know how to enjoy sex. Some mistakenly think that it's really not even something they are supposed to enjoy. It's actually really sad to me that the messages these women have received all their lives on morality have made them miss out on one of life's most amazing experiences.

I was responding to your statement:

If you click ahead, there is a question from a man who is afraid that his wife is being too seductive... that she is becoming pornography.

You cannot make a convincing argument that such people are not outliers.

[marsupial]

I was responding to your statement:



You cannot make a convincing argument that such people are not outliers.

Oh, for sure. He is an outlier. But the other scenarios? Pretty typical.

[edward777]

The weird thing is that the therapist's suggestions seem really positive towards sex and intimacy yet the people criticizing her approach demonstrate attitudes of judgement and distrust. I tend to hand out with fairly well educated LDS people and so most of the people I know have pretty liberal attitudes towards sex within marriage. I suspect the people who are so critical in her replies are not so high up on the IQ scale.

[SoCalCoug]

The weird thing is that the therapist's suggestions seem really positive towards sex and intimacy yet the people criticizing her approach demonstrate attitudes of judgement and distrust. I tend to hand out with fairly well educated LDS people and so most of the people I know have pretty liberal attitudes towards sex within marriage. I suspect the people who are so critical in her replies are not so high up on the IQ scale.

I've seen this principle floated before. The problem is, as soon as you start to make an argument that there is any correlation between anything "liberal" and IQ, you get shouted down by the dumbasses.