It's time to end the tradition of women taking their husbands' names

[FN Phat]

I do not see the need for a few bleeding hearts to stand up for what they believe women want and/or need as opposed to the women deciding for themselves. I suppose I need to put on the shinning armour of feminism and join the good fight!

[wuapinmon]

My wife chose to keep her own last name. When she was married the first time she took his name, then changed it back after their divorce. She told me early on in our relationship that she liked her last name and didn't have any desire to change it. Luckily I don't care one bit what last name she uses. She's happy with her last name, and she accepts that people will still call us Mr. and Mrs. (or Bro. and Sis.) [my last name], and The [my last name] Family. She's okay with that, and I'm okay with her last name being whatever she wants it to be.

The truth is, nobody likes your last name. I don't blame your wife at all.

[Tim]

I do not see the need for a few bleeding hearts to stand up for what they believe women want and/or need as opposed to the women deciding for themselves. I suppose I need to put on the shinning armour of feminism and join the good fight!

He's just trolling. It's well-documented that I'm a bleeding heart, yet this isn't something I care about at all. It's her name -- she can call herself whatever she wants as far as I'm concerned.

[Tim]

The truth is, nobody likes your last name. I don't blame your wife at all.

I'm proud of my heritage, and it's reflected in my last name. If you were proud of your heritage you'd wear it like a badge of honor, too... but I just don't see mayonnaise sandwiches and catfish chumming as something to be proud of.

[Clark Addison]

When my sister married, she took her husband's name. A few years later, she decided to switch back to a hyphenated name. I think my BIL would have been fine if she did it from the beginning, but I think he felt is was a bit of a rejection when 5 years in she decided that she no longer wanted to be known by his name.

[pellegrino]

My wife chose to keep her own last name. When she was married the first time she took his name, then changed it back after their divorce. She told me early on in our relationship that she liked her last name and didn't have any desire to change it. Luckily I don't care one bit what last name she uses. She's happy with her last name, and she accepts that people will still call us Mr. and Mrs. (or Bro. and Sis.) [my last name], and The [my last name] Family. She's okay with that, and I'm okay with her last name being whatever she wants it to be.

Knowing your wife, that doesn't surprise me in the least bit. Good for her!

[Sizzle]

My wife couldn't wait to ditch her last name when she got married.

[RC Vikings]

Let's just forget names all together and assign everyone a number. I'll start: I'm #1.

Numbers are pretty impersonal. I purpose we all go pop star (Madonna, Cher, Fergie, Bono). From here on out I would like to be called "Dérailleur".

[Surfah]

Tim on your church records do you and your wife show up as one unit under your name? Or does it show as individual records with the spouse/family information listed below? This is a serious question BTW.

I ask because we have a couple in our ward where the wife kept her name and that is how their records are. I only know this because as I was making HT assignments I had to be sure to assign the same HT to each of them. I don't recall seeing this during my time as Ward Clerk. I'd assume there is a simple way to put them in the same unit but am not sure.

[myboynoah]

Tim on your church records do you and your wife show up as one unit under your name? Or does it show as individual records with the spouse/family information listed below? This is a serious question BTW.

I ask because we have a couple in our ward where the wife kept her name and that is how their records are. I only know this because as I was making HT assignments I had to be sure to assign the same HT to each of them. I don't recall seeing this during my time as Ward Clerk. I'd assume there is a simple way to put them in the same unit but am not sure.

Interesting. I wonder if MLS automatically assigns a women her spouses last name. It does require a maiden name. I'll check this out on Sunday if I remember.

[Indy Coug]

Interesting. I wonder if MLS automatically assigns a women her spouses last name. It does require a maiden name. I'll check this out on Sunday if I remember.

I don't believe MLS does this automatically, but I can't swear to it. Someone in the ward just re-married and when his wife's records came from her previous ward, I'm pretty sure we had to make the change.

[Tim]

Tim on your church records do you and your wife show up as one unit under your name? Or does it show as individual records with the spouse/family information listed below? This is a serious question BTW.

I ask because we have a couple in our ward where the wife kept her name and that is how their records are. I only know this because as I was making HT assignments I had to be sure to assign the same HT to each of them. I don't recall seeing this during my time as Ward Clerk. I'd assume there is a simple way to put them in the same unit but am not sure.

Last I checked it listed her and I as one unit, but it has her maiden name as her middle name. So we're listed with my last name, then it says my name on one line and her full name on the next.

[Indy Coug]

Last I checked it listed her and I as one unit, but it has her maiden name as her middle name. So we're listed with my last name, then it says my name on one line and her full name on the next.

Individual records are grouped as a "household" record and the surname of the head of household will be what reports are listed under and sorted by.

However, individuals in that household have their own surnames and if you get a report of individuals rather than households, you will see their surnames, not the head of their household.

[Moliere]

I think Obama should just assign us names. That way we would all be equal and women wouldn't have to make such a big decision.

[wally]

Originally Posted by SeattleUte
I think it would make things run a little more smoothly, and help some women's self-image. Just my opinion.

So, in case you weren't kidding, like a typical American feminist, you favor collective identity over individual identity? You speak for women rather than for DU's cutey? I think some women would be happy that a man recognizes the imbalance and speaks out against it, rather than ridiculing his good-natured attempt to help. Give me Kristeva, Irigaray, and Moi any day over the inanity that leads women to this level of antagonism against their allies.

Passive-aggressiveness is weakness.

Goodness, why wan't you women just sit down, shut up and let these men do your thinking for you. They already told you that they were proponents of feminism, that means they are on YOUR side, duh. They only want what's best for you.