Comparing to CougarBoard

[Indy Coug]

You're certain you know what is "right" for this random couple where you've read one paragraph about their lives?

I'm pretty sure that poking around with another man or woman while still married is wrong.

[il Padrino Ute]

She doesn't want to divorce. She would rather have him as a friend in her home helping to raise their son. Basically, she will take any part of him he is willing to give.

How long will that last? At some point, she will realize that she needs more than just a friend for her own happiness. It sounds like she has low self esteem.

[il Padrino Ute]

I'm pretty sure that poking around with another man or woman while still married is wrong.

Yep. But then, you and I may not be up to speed with the times.

[byu71]

I'm pretty sure that poking around with another man or woman while still married is wrong.

Always, I don't really know. Anyone seen a study done on what percentage of "open" marriages end up being rotten marriages. My guess would be most, but is it all of them?

[Surfah]

I don't get it. If the gay father is committed to being a good parent, why does marriage need to persist? Can't he still be a very important part of his wife's life and remain a dear friend without it?

I tend to agree with IPU. Regardless of sexuality I have to think an open marriage has the potential to be very harmful to their relationship with each other and their child.

[woot]

It's funny that a board full of virgins insists that you're not gay until you have sex. I guess that means that most of CB isn't straight.

[KillerDog]

I don't get it. If the gay father is committed to being a good parent, why does marriage need to persist? Can't he still be a very important part of his wife's life and remain a dear friend without it?

I tend to agree with IPU. Regardless of sexuality I have to think an open marriage has the potential to be very harmful to their relationship with each other and their child.

I'm not sure how "open" the marriage is. I know that he goes out to clubs and stuff but I don't know what happens at that point. Maybe his wife thinks if it is outside the house it won't affect the son.

[KillerDog]

cougaruteforum gave many less interesting responses than Cougarboard. Cougarboard not only had a gay LDS man participate in the thread but I received and exchanged boardmails with an LDS/former LDS man in the same exact situation as my friend. cougaruteforum boasts its openmindedness but cougarboard wins the diversity prize.

[Indy Coug]

cougaruteforum gave many less interesting responses than Cougarboard. Cougarboard not only had a gay LDS man participate in the thread but I received and exchanged boardmails with an LDS/former LDS man in the same exact situation as my friend. cougaruteforum boasts its openmindedness but cougarboard wins the diversity prize.

Sample size, sample size. The readership of CB is vastly larger than CUF.

[Jarid in Cedar]

It's funny that a board full of virgins insists that you're not gay until you have sex. I guess that means that most of CB isn't straight.

This comment deserves a hearty LOL

[byu71]

cougaruteforum gave many less interesting responses than Cougarboard. Cougarboard not only had a gay LDS man participate in the thread but I received and exchanged boardmails with an LDS/former LDS man in the same exact situation as my friend. cougaruteforum boasts its openmindedness but cougarboard wins the diversity prize.

Doesn't surprise me a bit. I would think CB will always have more people who think they know the answer to something they really are clueless about.

I am not including the two who had experiences and conversed with you. However, like Indy says, size matters. With their viewership vs ours, you would be more likely to find someone who has had actual experience.

[SeattleUte]

I'm sorry.

I have a friend who recently admitted to himself and his wife that he is "gay". He and his wife have a son. They have worked out an arrangement where he continues to live there and "parent" their child but they no longer have a sexual relationship. He has also started participating in the "gay lifestyle" outside the home. These events have gotten me thinking about how we define "gay". Was my buddy always gay because he was attracted to men or did he become gay once he started performing gay acts? How do/should we define things like attractions and desires? Are we defined by what we do or what we think? As you can tell, there are many corrolaries to this topic.

Who cares. That the LDS church causes its members to obsess about such questions is about all I would need to know about it. Speaks volumes. Worse, it's an insendiary question on CB. lol. What a bunch of losers.

PS, Glad you're here K-Dog.

[fusnik]

I have a family member that attempted a similar situation. Ultimately the reason the wife wanted the arrangement was to 'save face' to her family and friends. It was a dark secret that infested and ruined the wife much more than my gay cousin. Now the blame is with my cousin as a gay person should never, IMO, engage in a long term relationship with the sex they do not find attractive. The kids they have have turned out great, but both parents lie in a bed of emotional heartbreak and ruin.

[byu71]

Who cares. That the LDS church causes its members to obsess about such questions is about all I would need to know about it. Speaks volumes. Worse, it's an insendiary question on CB. lol. What a bunch of losers.

PS, Glad you're here K-Dog.

And you would be someone I would consider an expert when it comes to experiencing an obsession.

[il Padrino Ute]

And you would be someone I would consider an expert when it comes to experiencing an obsession.

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