How much would it affect your activity in the church?
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It depends on if it is football season or not.Originally posted by RC Vikings View Post"I don't mind giving the church 10% of my earnings, but 50% of my weekend mornings? Not as long as DirecTV NFL Sunday Ticket is around." - Daniel Tosh -
This has huge bearing on why the Church pushes marriage so hard.Originally posted by RC Vikings View PostComment
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For me, I don't know that it would impact my Sunday church attendance, at least in the short term. The bigger impact for me would be on what types of callings I would accept. I just finished a 4.5-year stint with the YM, I was sort of the anchor for the YM program when other callings in the ward were like a revolving door*. I would have never lasted close to that long if my wife weren't extremely supportive of me in the calling, despite how much I know it bothered her at times for me to be gone so much.
I don't think I'd be willing to spend time outside of normal church hours with a calling unless I felt I had her support. YM was at least a calling I enjoyed. With my current calling, there's no question I'd rather be at home with my family than trying to convince old men that they should go home teaching because the SP has a special goal for them.
*While I held that calling, the ward went through 5 YM presidents, 5 scoutmasters, 3 bishops, 7 bishopric counselors, and 4-5 YW presidents.Comment
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It would be very difficult for me to get to church without danimal. Even harder to try and get my kids to go. If he left, I would probably go with him.What's to explain? It's a bunch of people, most of whom you've never met, who are just as likely to be homicidal maniacs as they are to be normal everyday people, with whom you share the minutiae of your everyday life. It's totally normal, and everyone would understand.
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WTF? Please elaborate. How do you go through Bishop's that fast?Originally posted by TheBYUGuy View Post"It's true that everything happens for a reason. Just remember that sometimes that reason is that you did something really, really, stupid."Comment
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They were having open-mike auditions.Originally posted by FMCoug View Post"The first thing I learned upon becoming a head coach after fifteen years as an assistant was the enormous difference between making a suggestion and making a decision."
"They talk about the economy this year. Hey, my hairline is in recession, my waistline is in inflation. Altogether, I'm in a depression."
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My wife hasn't left the church. I don't think that she will either, but that will be her decision.
But I can tell you this...my attendance and effort that I am putting in my current calling have decreased significantly since she stopped going every week.
I was much like BYUGuy though. I spent 5 years as YM President and never missed a meeting. Never missed a YM's game or Eagle stuff or DTG stuff. I was all-in.
Now that I have been released it is kinda like after my mission. A little break time.
Who knows what will happen. I do know that my happiness and blessings don't appear to have dropped off.Comment
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They move out of the ward. One retired and moved to a place that has four seasons. Another moved so he could shorten his commute and downsize the house with all the kids gone (he has since moved to London). Our ward has had a lot of turnover with people moving for work assignments or new jobs.Originally posted by FMCoug View PostComment
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Time spent with my family brings me happiness and is a blessing. That may sound cheesy (mmmm...), but it's true in my case because I've come to realize how scarce that time can be.Originally posted by The_Tick View PostComment
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A little Personal but that is OK:
My wife went inactive for roughly a year. It was very hard for me but I attended church every Sunday and took our son. I left it up to her and never pushed her. She had to do her own soul seeking and testimony. I prayed feverently for her and for her testimony and had many Sundays full of tears with her not by my side. Seeing all those families and looking at me and my son without my wife had its tough moments. It was hard all around. People treat you differently even when they have no idea what is going on.
However, it made me realize that I will never forsake my faith and never lose my faith. Even in such a difficult situation.. IN addition it has made my wife's testimony that much stronger. She recommitted herself and made that commitment on her own. Her testimony has never been stronger. Of course she had her rough times when she was coming back (Since none of the sisters made any efforts whatsoever to extend a hand of fellowship during the time she went inactive etc.). But she overcame it all and is very active and has her calling with me and is the rock..
I have a different opinion towards those who are in similar situations and make an effort to make sure they know I am pleased to see them at church. It can be hard and I know how hard it is to go in those cases...Comment
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dabrockster, thanks for sharing this personal story. glad to hear that yours is a happy ending and that you, your wife, and family are strong. Also, your commitment to reach out to the non-traditional Mos at Church is very cool. I am sure you are making a difference in their lives, even if it is a small and simple thing. again, thanks.Originally posted by dabrockster View PostFitter. Happier. More Productive.
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I suppose that what I would do depends greatly on where I was personally with my faith and, quite frankly, energy level.
Right now, I'd probably just be grateful for a true day of rest and would probably follow my wife.
Other times, when I'm feeling more animated and inspired about life, I might continue going.
It's really hard to say. I've got a 4 and 6 year old. While it would be difficult to get them to Church, etc., I'd almost feel some obligation to them to raise them in the Church and let them make a decision.
Sometimes when we make decisions for ourselves, we are actually making decisions for our kids, right?
I mean, I'd have to say that a kid is much less likely to ever be active in a church if his parents were active and then stopped going than, say, a non-member kid. I mean, it's almost as if the parent's inactivity or leaving the church, even if not done out of animosity, becomes a "testimony" against the Church in the mind of the child.
I'd like to think that I would keep going and keep my kids involved so that they could make a decision at some point, on their own, without letting my own inactivity cloud their decision.Comment
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