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  • #1

    Wedding costs...

    Don't get all riled up...

    My wife and daughters love those shows on TV: Say yes to the dress, and My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding.

    If it isn't some version of Law and Order...it is a wedding/bride show.

    So this always gets us into the conversation....what does/should a wedding cost?

    Those folks pay THOUSANDS for a dress that will be worn once. I think TW paid 350 for hers at some crazy bridal show in Washington.

    So the question is...

    How much did your wedding/wedding reception cost?

    This is something we argue about all of the time. TK1 as she gets older watches these shows because she has her eye on the future (as she should) and she comments about all the stuff she wants for her wedding. I start to get a headache and mentally crunch numbers. I realize that there are going to be some hurt feelings when that time shows up. I am planning on about 1/3 of what she is planning. Wont be fun...

    Anyone up for sharing war stories?

    I think our wedding and both receptions ended up costing us about 2k total. (This includes the dress, tux rental and 3 airline tickets.) Wedding cake was donated by a ward member as a wedding gift, as were the finger foods served at the reception.
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    My niece married a Tongan fellow last week. I asked my brother about the costs. Between the two families it cost about $7k. The cost covered a fully catered polynesian for meal with tons of food, a DJ, and a band. I think they fed around 150. Best wedding reception/party I've attended in years. We gringos could stand to learn a few things about wedding traditions from the polys because our receptions do not hold a candle to theirs.

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    • #3
      I don't know the full cost because I'm a man, but my estimate is around $5k total. MJ and her mom made her dress, the reception was at a decent reception hall, temple was free, rented a dozen tuxes, nothing extravagant on food, good wedding breakfast at Gardner Village, etc.

      We've also discussed this topic as we have multiple girls. Our approach is likely to be giving them a budget and letting them plan. If they go over budget then they pay for the excess. If they go under they keep the difference. I figure MJ will actively help plan to make sure they don't spend/scrimp too much.
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      • #4
        Originally posted by Moliere View Post
        I don't know the full cost because I'm a man, but my estimate is around $5k total. MJ and her mom made her dress, the reception was at a decent reception hall, temple was free, rented a dozen tuxes, nothing extravagant on food, good wedding breakfast at Gardner Village, etc.

        We've also discussed this topic as we have multiple girls. Our approach is likely to be giving them a budget and letting them plan. If they go over budget then they pay for the excess. If they go under they keep the difference. I figure MJ will actively help plan to make sure they don't spend/scrimp too much.
        This is what we've done with my girls.

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        • #5
          This thread is a total letdown!
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          The rest of us rarely bother to think about our actions." --Solon

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          • #6
            If I had to estimate, I'd guess our wedding was in the $4-5k range. Plus another $1,500 for an open house that my parents did in my home town. IIRC, the biggest expenses were the reception hall and the food. Mrs. D rented (gasp!) her dress, which she kind of felt bad about afterwards, because they had to alter it so significantly that it was, effectively, useless as a rental after that. After the wedding the lady offered to sell it to us for $100, and we didn't buy it. I think Mrs. D regrets that now.
            Last edited by Donuthole; 06-29-2011, 09:01 AM.
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            • #7
              I think about $6K total. Wedding lunch at Joseph Smith Memorial Building. Catered reception at JSMB that evening (this was the biggest cost). Second reception at Mrs. Meanie's house in NoCal.

              Mrs. Meanie's sister made the dress. A neighbor lady made the cake - around $150 or $200 if I remember right.

              The amount that people on TV shows spend for weddings is obscene.

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              • #8
                My daughters wedding: $10,288.62 Of course, she got a full-ride scholarship to school so I think I still came out ok in the long run. My wife and I won't be going on vacation any time soon.

                BTW, the average american wedding is something like $27,000. This is something your daughters will quickly point out to you when you mention things are costing too much.
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                • #9
                  mrs. camleish wore her mother's wedding dress. free, bonus points for sentimentality, and it was actually pretty darn close to what the bridal shops were asking $1k for. my parents used the wedding as an excuse to put some money into the back yard, but it was pouring rain the day before and the new grass could not have handled the 450 people that showed up. our plan b was my church, and all were very afraid of how tacky a church reception can be. my in-laws spent probably 100 hours among them getting ready, and it looked really nice.

                  i would say ours (including the luncheon, excluding my parents landscaping costs) cost under $10k, which was pretty reasonable considering the number of people we hosted.
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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Uncle Ted View Post
                    My daughters wedding: $10,288.62 Of course, she got a full-ride scholarship to school so I think I still came out ok in the long run. My wife and I won't be going on vacation any time soon.

                    BTW, the average american wedding is something like $27,000. This is something your daughters will quickly point out to you when you mention things are costing too much.
                    That's in the neighborhood of our wedding, although my father in law paid for about half. My parents generously paid for the rehearsal dinner, which wasn't part of that figure. Food/drinks alone were about 30% of the cost. Our friends who are getting married in September are budgeting around $60K for their wedding since they're having 300+ people attend. However, that's less than his bonus where he works, so there's a difference between getting married at 22 vs. 28-30.

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                    • #11
                      Mo weddings are generally a steal for the following reasons:

                      1. Temple/chapel is free
                      2. We never serve alcohol
                      3. We can serve low-brow fare without being shamed into exile...I've been to receptions at the chapel where they served dixie cups filled with pillow mints and mixed nuts (hey, the family was on a budget, that is ok), I've been to prime rib receptions, and everything in between. All of it falls within an acceptable realm.
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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by Donuthole View Post
                        Mrs. D rented (gasp!) her dress, which she kind of felt bad about afterwards, because they had to alter it so significantly that it was, effectively, useless as a rental after that.
                        What is so different about Mrs. D's body that they had to alter it significantly?

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by TripletDaddy View Post
                          Mo weddings are generally a steal for the following reasons:

                          1. Temple/chapel is free
                          2. We never serve alcohol
                          3. We can serve low-brow fare without being shamed into exile...I've been to receptions at the chapel where they served dixie cups filled with pillow mints and mixed nuts (hey, the family was on a budget, that is ok), I've been to prime rib receptions, and everything in between. All of it falls within an acceptable realm.
                          Alcohol was about $4K, plus 20% tip since it takes so much skill to pour wine into a glass.

                          From this thread and my experiences, the weddings on a budget are almost a sense of pride within the Mo community. Not that there's anything wrong with that, it's just interesting.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by wuapinmon View Post
                            This thread is a total letdown!
                            How so?

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by RC Vikings View Post
                              What is so different about Mrs. D's body that they had to alter it significantly?
                              She had them add long sleeves and attach a white pair of stretchy pants underneath the dress so she could ensure she was being as modest as possible. Either that or she's pretty petite. I can't remember which.
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