modern wedding etiquette

[Babs]

Do you get a gift for a second wedding when it's somebody you haven't seen since high school and you sent a perfectly good gift the first time around? Also, is it really okay to include a helpful note about your registries with your wedding invitation?

[falafel]

Do you get a gift for a second wedding when it's somebody you haven't seen since high school and you sent a perfectly good gift the first time around? Also, is it really okay to include a helpful note about your registries with the wedding invitation?

Practically every wedding invitation I've received in the last 10 years has included a registry note. How else do you know where they are registered?

[old_gregg]

we did not include a registry note, nor did we put where we are registered on the invitation itself (tacky!). people who are inclined to go buy a gift we're registered for ask (and we have sent links to our online registries to family in case friends ask them). there are also a few sites that index wedding registries, and it is easy to find where someone is registered.

[Babs]

(tacky!)

Yeah, that's how it comes across to me, but maybe it's the norm now.

[TripletDaddy]

Yeah, that's how it comes across to me, but maybe it's the norm now.

In Mo culture is pretty common to put an insert asking for a gift (done in the form of a registry announcement). It is also a rule to include a photo with the invite, whereas outside of Mormondom that is still considered a novelty, as most couples send out wedding announcements as well as invites.

[Moliere]

In Mo culture is pretty common to put an insert asking for a gift (done in the form of a registry announcement). It is also a rule to include a photo with the invite, whereas outside of Mormondom that is still considered a novelty, as most couples send out wedding announcements as well as invites.

This is my experience as well. I've received a number of non-Mo invites and there is generally an "announcement" that is sent a couple months prior that has the registry info. The invite comes about a month prior with no registry info.

Mormons just put the two together. I don't find it tacky or odd. I think people should do their wedding invites how they want as long as no guilt is involved for not buying a gift or for not showing up to the reception.

[Moliere]

The timing is also a bit messed up with Mo weddings. There generally isn't enough time to do two mailings. I'm going to a non-Mo wedding in June where the couple has been engaged for 10 months. That timing would be pretty rare in Mormondum.

[TripletDaddy]

The timing is also a bit messed up with Mo weddings. There generally isn't enough time to do two mailings. I'm going to a non-Mo wedding in June where the couple has been engaged for 10 months. That timing would be pretty rare in Mormondum.

Yeah, I forgot to mention that. Mos love short engagements and this is likely 100% related to sexual intercourse. We received a wedding invite last week for a wedding in 3 weeks. That would be almost entirely unheard of outside of Mo- ville absent the prior announcement. While that is on the fast side, even for Mos, it is fairly common for short turnaround so that the kids can get banging.

[DU Ute]

Why not just set up a website with maps, additional pictures, links to registery information and more? A simple www.babsloveswuap.com at the bottom of the invitation wouldn't be tacky.

[pellegrino]

Why not just set up a website with maps, additional pictures, links to registery information and more? A simple www.babsloveswuap.com at the bottom of the invitation wouldn't be tacky.

Hey! That link doesn't work!

[DU Ute]

Hey! That link doesn't work!

I know. I wish it did as much as you do.

[TripletDaddy]

I know. I wish it did as much as you do.

Are you saying Pilgrim doesn't really work? More anti academia on this site.

[creekster]

Are you saying Pilgrim doesn't really work? More anti academia on this site.

Its an obsession!

[Babs]

you guys are IGNORING THE QUESTION. Do you get gifts for your friends the second time around? It just seems really weird to be shopping for placemats and shower curtains for thirty-something professionals.

[old_gregg]

Why not just set up a website with maps, additional pictures, links to registery information and more? A simple www.babsloveswuap.com at the bottom of the invitation wouldn't be tacky.

we strongly considered this, and went so far as to register the domain name. but, we ultimately decided that we didn't want "www.[camleishandfiancee].com" on our invitation, and didn't want yet another insert (after the the separate temple and luncheon inserts).