modern wedding etiquette

[falafel]

you guys are IGNORING THE QUESTION. Do you get gifts for your friends the second time around? It just seems really weird to be shopping for placemats and shower curtains for thirty-something professionals.

Yes. They probably lost all the other stuff in the respective divorces.

[Soccermom]

you guys are IGNORING THE QUESTION. Do you get gifts for your friends the second time around? It just seems really weird to be shopping for placemats and shower curtains for thirty-something professionals.

I would still buy a gift. Actually, I'm boring. I generally give cash at weddings. So I would give a card with cash.

[PaloAltoCougar]

If this is a person you haven't seen in years, and don't expect to associate with in the foreseeable future, then given the other facts you cited, Mrs. PAC and I both vote for sending a nice card, probably not one that plays an electronic tune when opened.

[grapevine]

A second wedding should not have the same hype as a first wedding. What about those people that have multiple marriages? Thing is wedding should be a once in a lifetime event. Early widowhood and divorce when one person screws up leads to additional marriages.

But if you been to first why go to second? At least no need for presents and for the glamour of first one. Barbecue and well wish is enough I think. People that get married and divorced shortly later and married again why hoopla second time around. I know someone that was divorced and on second marriage infidelity may have been involved but sent same registration information as would be on first wedding. That looked tacky I think.

Interesting one when a second marriage happens because of infidelity what kind of support should you give there? They left there spouses to get married. That is intersting.