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    Will she wait for him?

    OK, so my brother is on his mission, been out 10 months. He left behind a girlfriend. They have been sweethearts from 9th grade to present, including a year at college together. My brother rejected my advice to set her free before he left.

    So, up until recently, she has had 'in a relationship with brother of Soccermom' on her Facebook info. That little piece of info is no longer there. Also, on Mother's Day, she came to my parents home so she could speak with my brother. She no longer had her "I love my missionary" key chain.

    My mom is all freaked out and my brother wrote home that he feels like something is up. I want to say I told you so, but that is probably too mean.

    My question is what do my fellow CUF'ers think? Is a Dear John letter in my baby brother's foreseeable future?
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    Originally posted by Soccermom View Post
    My question is what do my fellow CUF'ers think? Is a Dear John letter in my baby brother's foreseeable future?
    In the form of a wedding invitation.
    "Nobody listens to Turtle."
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    • #3
      To paraphrase Jeff Foxworthy "When your girlfriend suggests you both should start seeing other people, what she means is she's already cut another pony out of the herd and is fixin' to put a saddle on him."

      That letter is already in the mail.
      The Holy War is over, and Utah won - Federal Ute

      Think of how stupid the average American is. Then remember that half are even dumber than that. - George Carlin

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      • #4
        Yes, dear John is coming, and it's not a big deal. At least it shouldn't be.

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        • #5
          Originally posted by Soccermom View Post
          OK, so my brother is on his mission, been out 10 months. He left behind a girlfriend. They have been sweethearts from 9th grade to present, including a year at college together. My brother rejected my advice to set her free before he left.

          So, up until recently, she has had 'in a relationship with brother of Soccermom' on her Facebook info. That little piece of info is no longer there. Also, on Mother's Day, she came to my parents home so she could speak with my brother. She no longer had her "I love my missionary" key chain.

          My mom is all freaked out and my brother wrote home that he feels like something is up. I want to say I told you so, but that is probably too mean.

          My question is what do my fellow CUF'ers think? Is a Dear John letter in my baby brother's foreseeable future?
          Yes, but all is not lost.

          I came home and fell madly in love with my ex's best friend, which made for awkward get togethers, but had the unintended benefit of being a form of revenge. My wife is also way cuter than this girl was, so it's a win-win-win for RS.

          So if brother of Soccermom's girlfriend has a cute best friend, you may want to push him in that direction in 14 months.

          DISCLAIMER (in case the wife reads): Getting revenge was in no way a reason for my interest in the future Mrs. RS.


          Other forms of revenge:

          Sending Jane a envelope full of pictures of females (including one of Jane) and asking her to remove her photo from the envelope and return the rest. Passive. Agressive. I like.
          Jesus wants me for a sunbeam.

          "Cog dis is a bitch." -James Patterson

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          • #6
            Originally posted by Jacob View Post
            Yes, dear John is coming, and it's not a big deal. At least it shouldn't be.
            they've been dating for five years, it will and should be a big deal to him.
            Te Occidere Possunt Sed Te Edere Non Possunt Nefas Est.

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            • #7
              Stephen Still had it right "If you cant be with the one you love, love the one you're with".

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              • #8
                I made a girl bawl like you wouldn't believe because I didn't want her to wait for me. To make things even more awkward we were never even "together". A few months later when I entered the MTC she showed up with my roommate to see my off. Apparently they started dating after I moved home to prep for my mission and thought I'd be upset so they kept it secret until then. I was relieved. There were 2 other girls there though too at the MTC, one of which was my first HS girlfriend who also worked in the cafeteria at the MTC. It was a bit weird introducing these three girls who had shown up without invitation to my family. My very first date too was in the MTC when I was there. That was fun bumping into her while in line to eat one day. She was also the girl who remained in my car waiting for me to open her door. I was halfway through the parking lot to the movie theater before I realized. Whoops.
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                • #9
                  I counsel all the YM in my ward to not spend all their money on someone else's future wife. They never listen, but most of the time they wish they would have listened.
                  "Discipleship is not a spectator sport. We cannot expect to experience the blessing of faith by standing inactive on the sidelines any more than we can experience the benefits of health by sitting on a sofa watching sporting events on television and giving advice to the athletes. And yet for some, “spectator discipleship” is a preferred if not primary way of worshipping." -Pres. Uchtdorf

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Soccermom View Post
                    OK, so my brother is on his mission, been out 10 months. He left behind a girlfriend. They have been sweethearts from 9th grade to present, including a year at college together. My brother rejected my advice to set her free before he left.

                    So, up until recently, she has had 'in a relationship with brother of Soccermom' on her Facebook info. That little piece of info is no longer there. Also, on Mother's Day, she came to my parents home so she could speak with my brother. She no longer had her "I love my missionary" key chain.

                    My mom is all freaked out and my brother wrote home that he feels like something is up. I want to say I told you so, but that is probably too mean.

                    My question is what do my fellow CUF'ers think? Is a Dear John letter in my baby brother's foreseeable future?
                    You're right, he should have cut her loose. She probably already liked him quite a bit but that just makes her respect him more and in the back of her mind she's bugged by the fact your brother thinks he can go on without her. Of course, that may not have made any difference at all.

                    Finally, I think expecting your girlfriend to wait for you for two years is kind of ridiculous and pretty unfair to the girl.
                    Part of it is based on academic grounds. Among major conferences, the Pac-10 is the best academically, largely because of Stanford, Cal and UCLA. “Colorado is on a par with Oregon,” he said. “Utah isn’t even in the picture.”

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by camleish View Post
                      they've been dating for five years, it will and should be a big deal to him.
                      If you are 19 and have been dating someone for 5 years, it's probably best, in most cases, to date additional people.
                      Last edited by Portland Ute; 05-11-2011, 01:25 PM.

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by Portland Ute View Post
                        If you are 19 and have been dating someone for 5 years, it's probably best in most cases, to date additional people.
                        right, but it will still be a big deal to him and his family.
                        Te Occidere Possunt Sed Te Edere Non Possunt Nefas Est.

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by camleish View Post
                          right, but it will still be a big deal to him and his family.
                          It shouldn't be a big deal for the family. I've always been a bit amused by families that continue to "take in" the waiting girlfriend while the missionary is gone. Inviting her to family functions, etc. It seems a bit manipulative.

                          It really isn't a big deal for him, but he will think that it is. If that makes sense.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by Moliere View Post
                            I counsel all the YM in my ward to not spend all their money on someone else's future wife. They never listen, but most of the time they wish they would have listened.
                            This is a off the top of my head guess as far as percentages:

                            Percentage of girls that don't wait: 70%

                            Percentage of the remainder of girls that did wait that had better options: 33.3% (so 10% of the total).

                            Percentage of girls that wait that don't have better options: 66.7% (20% of the total).

                            70% is natural attrition. The middle 10% will often end up in marriage with the returned missionary. Some of the bottom 20% will end up getting married to the returned missionary, but the missionary should be wondering the whole time why she never dated anyone else at all.
                            Part of it is based on academic grounds. Among major conferences, the Pac-10 is the best academically, largely because of Stanford, Cal and UCLA. “Colorado is on a par with Oregon,” he said. “Utah isn’t even in the picture.”

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                            • #15
                              Doesn't morning wait for the sun to rise?
                              Like a birthday waits for a big surprise?
                              Like a baby waits for a diaper change?
                              Doesn't laughter wait for a joke that's good?
                              Like the big bad wolf for Red Riding Hood?
                              Like a cowboy waits to be home on the range?

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