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  • SeattleUte
    Faith crisis consultant
    • Nov 2008
    • 20837

    #1

    BYU: Some perspective that I hope will help

    First, I want to say that this isn't a troll. I really love you guys; I appreciate how you've accepted me into your circle, shown a lot of affection for me in your own way or an ironic way, regardless of my curmudgeonly anti-BYU posts, critiques of Mormonism, etc. I'm still touched how MikeWaters, Lebowski, etc. came to me when CG was nascent, and invited me in at the ground floor. I still remember Lebowski reaching out to me when I was giving Cougarboard a hard time one day and telling me to come and post at CG more often. I've told people close to me, my brothers, etc., that I am a lot more like most of you than unlike you. You guys are my connection to my roots, a past I still have a lot of affection for.

    I know you're suffering now, and I don't want to make it worse. I'm really being sincere. I even love cougjunkie a lot.

    Now, for the tough love. I'm talking to you guys, but I wish I could also say this to Brandon Davies, who I feel is likely a terrific young man. He has sweat blood, worked harder than probably anyone judging him now can fathom, to arrive at the special place in his life that was taken from him today.

    What united us here? We share an outlook vis-a-vis what happened today. You guys tease me about perceived sports ignorance, but really, I've always considered Utah vs. BYU like the Shire (Utah) vs. Mordor (BYU). I consider BYU despicable, at a deep moral level, and this is a prime reason why. It isn't about did Joseph Smith really get the Book of Mormon the way he said he did, etc. Not at all. It's about morality, right and wrong.

    I'll readily retract what I just said if Davies has committed a crime or hurt somebody. I didn't hear the kind of things I'm reading here from Oregon fans when Jeremiah Masoli was kicked out of school. Rational and moral Oregon fans can all agree that Oregon should be intolerant of burglary. I would feel the same way if this happened to a Ute. I am ashamed of rumors about Utah's recent academic problems in basketball, as most Utes seem to be.

    On the other hand, a nineteen year old kid has sex with his girlfriend; okay, that may be stupid for reasons such that he's not ready to have kids. So, BYU says, let's really ruin him. Let's expel him from school, give him that badge of shame; we'll carve into his pro basketball prospects and make it tough for him to go to medical school or whatever. We'll show him. Why? I don't know why people think this is right. Truly, I don't get it.

    I think most of us here can agree that if this is the sort of thing that got Michael Loyd or Unga kicked off the team, it's just wrong. BYU is wrong, it's immoral, it's shameful. You all are ashamed of BYU now, aren't you.

    What is perhaps most chilling to me is being reminded that the HC office relies on BYU students to inform on one another, and the accused does not get to face his accuser. For the accused, it's lie or else, but the problem with lying is you don't know what they've been told. This is like the stuff of 1984 or Darkness at Noon. Peole weren't tortured in the Soviet Union most of the time either; it was all psycholgical pressure. No, people who confess aren't getting shot at BYU, but they are suffering terrible shame and humiliation, and their lives are being irrevocably altered nonetheless.

    Now the really tough love: JUST LIKE BRANDON DAVIES, YOU ALL SIGNED UP FOR THIS. SO DON'T COMPLAIN, WHEN YOU'VE BEEN ON NOTICE. DAVIES SIGNED THE HONOR CODE, SO DID YOU. YOU ALL BOUGHT INTO BYU'S INJURIOUS NONSENSE. SO ACCEPT THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR VOLITIONAL ACTS AND DON'T COMPLAIN.

    Woot, you once said Utah has done a lot more for humanty than BYU. So why do you love BYU and hate Utah? I don't get it.

    Here's the terrible irony: BYU has had sports teams in order to project BYU's ethos and culture. But this basketball team has been crippled by that very ethos and culture. Brandon Davies is weeping right now because what he has worked so hard for has been ripped from him by the very value system that his self-made achievement ought to be celebrating.

    BUT going forward, I think you all need to reconsider your affiliation with BYU, even the mother church. Because guess what, if you really believed it was what it claims to be, you wouldn't be so pissed off today. Give yourseves some relief. Say sayonara to your BYU support. It's the natural and right thing to do. BYU is a wrong.

    I hope this helps.
    Last edited by SeattleUte; 01-10-2016, 10:29 PM.
    When a true genius appears, you can know him by this sign: that all the dunces are in a confederacy against him.

    --Jonathan Swift
  • TripletDaddy
    sweet triple
    • Nov 2008
    • 58186

    #2
    This did not help.
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    • CardiacCoug
      вот так штука
      • Nov 2008
      • 11013

      #3
      Originally posted by SeattleUte View Post
      BUT going forward, I think you all need to reconsider your affiliation with BYU, even the mother church. Because guess what, if you really believed it was what it claims to be, you wouldn't be so pissed off today. Give yourseves some relief. Say sayonara to your BYU support. It's the natural and right thing to do. BYU is a wrong.

      I hope this helps.
      Good post, SU. But it's not that simple.

      My love for BYU sports has nothing whatsoever to do with any of that stuff. It's completely irrational and unalterable -- permanently imprinted onto my brain from the time I was a little kid. It won't ever change.

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      • SeattleUte
        Faith crisis consultant
        • Nov 2008
        • 20837

        #4
        Originally posted by CardiacCoug View Post
        Good post, SU. But it's not that simple.

        My love for BYU sports has nothing whatsoever to do with any of that stuff. It's completely irrational and unalterable -- permanently imprinted onto my brain from the time I was a little kid. It won't ever change.
        You're damaged. Sorry. Just. Being. Honest.
        When a true genius appears, you can know him by this sign: that all the dunces are in a confederacy against him.

        --Jonathan Swift

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        • Donuthole
          Official Outgayer
          • Nov 2008
          • 25236

          #5
          Originally posted by SeattleUte View Post
          You're damaged. Sorry. Just. Being. Honest.
          Yes. Now if we can just get all those gays to quit choosing to be gay.
          Prepare to put mustard on those words, for you will soon be consuming them, along with this slice of humble pie that comes direct from the oven of shame set at gas mark “egg on your face”! -- Moss

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          • CardiacCoug
            вот так штука
            • Nov 2008
            • 11013

            #6
            Originally posted by SeattleUte View Post
            You're damaged. Sorry. Just. Being. Honest.
            There is BYU the educational institution and BYU athletics, and I don't really associate the two that closely to be honest.

            Stuff like this makes me want to talk my kids out of attending BYU, but doesn't even remotely make me want to skip the beatdown of the Lobos that will happen tomorrow night.

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            • SeattleUte
              Faith crisis consultant
              • Nov 2008
              • 20837

              #7
              Originally posted by Donuthole View Post
              Yes. Now if we can just get all those gays to quit choosing to be gay.
              lol
              When a true genius appears, you can know him by this sign: that all the dunces are in a confederacy against him.

              --Jonathan Swift

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              • YOhio
                Hipster Mode
                • Nov 2008
                • 26165

                #8
                Thanks, SU. That really does help. It was nice of you to open up and show a different side of yourself.

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                • jay santos
                  Senior Member
                  • Nov 2008
                  • 13652

                  #9
                  Originally posted by SeattleUte View Post
                  Woot, you once said Utah has done a lot more for humanty than BYU. So why do you love BYU and hate Utah? I don't get it.
                  You don't get it? That's an easy question. Someone else's parents might have done more for humanity than mine, but I will always love my mom and dad more. And there might even be some crazy, dysfunctional, hurtful stuff, and I'll still love them more.

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                  • Portland Ute
                    Junior Member
                    • Dec 2008
                    • 5647

                    #10
                    Originally posted by CardiacCoug View Post
                    There is BYU the educational institution and BYU athletics, and I don't really associate the two that closely to be honest.
                    You are a kindred brother to ALUFs everywhere.

                    Maybe a cousin.

                    It's this same kind of hair splitting that the ALUF engages in, too.

                    Essentially, what you and the ALUF do is separate completely sports from the LDS church and BYU.

                    It's weird, though, because I know some ALUFs that, unlike you, have no problem with BYU and would send their kids there, they just aren't fans of the sports.

                    I think the 'fans' that are the most dangerous are the ones that see one common thread between S. Temple and BYU sports. These people tend to be mullah Cougarboarders or anti-LDS Ute fans. I don't like either, to be honest.

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                    • Sullyute
                      a day late/a dollar short
                      • Jul 2010
                      • 3308

                      #11
                      Originally posted by Portland Ute View Post
                      You are a kindred brother to ALUFs everywhere.

                      Maybe a cousin.

                      It's this same kind of hair splitting that the ALUF engages in, too.

                      Essentially, what you and the ALUF do is separate completely sports from the LDS church and BYU.

                      It's weird, though, because I know some ALUFs that, unlike you, have no problem with BYU and would send their kids there, they just aren't fans of the sports.

                      I think the 'fans' that are the most dangerous are the ones that see one common thread between S. Temple and BYU sports. These people tend to be mullah Cougarboarders or anti-LDS Ute fans. I don't like either, to be honest.
                      +1
                      "Friendship is the grand fundamental principle of Mormonism" - Joseph Smith Jr.

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                      • pellegrino
                        miserere me
                        • Jan 2009
                        • 12100

                        #12
                        Originally posted by SeattleUte View Post
                        You're damaged. Sorry. Just. Being. Honest.
                        no more than you. Sorry. Just. Being. Honest.
                        Dio perdona tante cose per un’opera di misericordia
                        God forgives many things for an act of mercy
                        Alessandro Manzoni

                        Knock it off. This board has enough problems without a dose of middle-age lechery.

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                        • SeattleUte
                          Faith crisis consultant
                          • Nov 2008
                          • 20837

                          #13
                          Originally posted by pellegrino View Post
                          no more than you. Sorry. Just. Being. Honest.
                          We're. all. damaged. Silly.
                          When a true genius appears, you can know him by this sign: that all the dunces are in a confederacy against him.

                          --Jonathan Swift

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                          • LiveCoug
                            LA Ute loves me
                            • Nov 2008
                            • 18486

                            #14
                            Still waiting for the helpful perspective post....

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                            • pellegrino
                              miserere me
                              • Jan 2009
                              • 12100

                              #15
                              Originally posted by SeattleUte View Post
                              We're. all. damaged. Silly.
                              yes. we. are.

                              Which reminds me that my wife and I have designed a bumper sticker that reads: "We're not saving for Jr.'s education, We're saving for his therapy instead."
                              Dio perdona tante cose per un’opera di misericordia
                              God forgives many things for an act of mercy
                              Alessandro Manzoni

                              Knock it off. This board has enough problems without a dose of middle-age lechery.

                              pelagius

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