I learned in church today

[Moliere]

I am going to keep doing the best I can and serve my calling faithfully. We have a lady that wants her husband driven home right after sacrament. By right after I mean the volunteer needs to be out front waiting for her and her husband and if the volunteer driver isn't out there she drives him home and she gets very ugly with us when she gets back. I mean raises holy hell. She got on me pretty good in front of my son Sunday and the volunteer was looking for her inside the building. I told the Bishop that was the last time she gets on me because she isn't satisfied with our service. My comment about turning down callings is in regards to being a Bishop or serving in the Bishopric again. I was pissed Sunday but I'm ok now.

Why can't the lady drive him home every Sunday? Seems like she is capable enough...

[Pelado]

Why can't the lady drive him home every Sunday? Seems like she is capable enough...

Better question - why can't Triplet drive himself home?

[Eddie]

I am going to keep doing the best I can and serve my calling faithfully. We have a lady that wants her husband driven home right after sacrament. By right after I mean the volunteer needs to be out front waiting for her and her husband and if the volunteer driver isn't out there she drives him home and she gets very ugly with us when she gets back. I mean raises holy hell. She got on me pretty good in front of my son Sunday and the volunteer was looking for her inside the building. I told the Bishop that was the last time she gets on me because she isn't satisfied with our service. My comment about turning down callings is in regards to being a Bishop or serving in the Bishopric again. I was pissed Sunday but I'm ok now.

There's a guy in our ward who, as part of his apartment lease agreement, is supposed to mow part of the lawn. He, his wife, and his son are all on disability. He's in a motorized wheelchair and incapable of mowing. The son is an adult, but shouldn't be trusted with sharp blades, much less sharp blades moving quickly. So when the new bishop was put in, he promptly contacted the man about getting his lawn mowed each week.

Now - the previous bishop had reviewed the guys finances and told him that if he was unable to do it himself, he certainly could afford the $10 it would take to get a YM to do it for him. He also mentioned to the man that if he was incapable of mowing and didn't have the means to pay someone else to do it, maybe that wasn't the right apartment lease for him. In spite of this, the new bishop told him we would mow his lawn twice, and then he would need to make arrangements. (Never mind that he had BEEN making arrangements since the previous bishop had told him to do so.)

I was asked to set it up. I told him I'd have a YM there by the weekend to get it done. Friday I showed up with the YM, who had been busy with school and sports and unable to do it until then. And the guy goes off dropping f bombs left and right about how he needed it done earlier. I explained that it we had been unable to come sooner, etc., so he counters with "It's because of YOU that I don't come to church!" while pointing at me.

I just kind of chuckled and told him "I'm OK with that." I think it caught him off guard, so he continued with the "It's all YOUR fault I don't come!" I pointed out to him that he's lived there for more than a year and hadn't attended in more than a year either - so I'm not sure what not getting his lawn mowed soon enough this week had to do with it - and left with the YM. I told the kid not to worry about it - we wouldn't be mowing there anytime soon.

The next day I drove by and saw the bishop mowing the guys lawn.

[TripletDaddy]

Better question - why can't Triplet drive himself home?

[OceanBlue]

Why can't the lady drive him home every Sunday? Seems like she is capable enough...

She can drive him home but she likes to prepare for RS and expects someone to drive him home. She has walked up to the Bishop and given him as note telling Bishop that husband needs a ride home from physical therapy on such and such day and time and walks away.

Also like previous poster said I had another guy tell us the reason he doesn't go to church is because when he missed the first week nobody came to his home to check on him. He said in his previous ward out west the Bishop would have been to his home right after church and he means within minutes. It has been a valuable lesson for me on how to keep my big mouth shut and do what I need to do.

[Moliere]

Better question - why can't Triplet drive himself home?

Triplet lives in Utah so he could probably walk home faster than he could drive home. I imagine it's his sense of duty that keeps him at church after sacrament meeting.

She can drive him home but she likes to prepare for RS and expects someone to drive him home. She has walked up to the Bishop and given him as note telling Bishop that husband needs a ride home from physical therapy on such and such day and time and walks away.

Also like previous poster said I had another guy tell us the reason he doesn't go to church is because when he missed the first week nobody came to his home to check on him. He said in his previous ward out west the Bishop would have been to his home right after church and he means within minutes. It has been a valuable lesson for me on how to keep my big mouth shut and do what I need to do.

The worst is when members in the ward volunteer the ward to do something and then tell the bishop what he just volunteered to coordinate. Our current bishop has had that happen several times and each time he's gone back to the person to whom the promise was made and told them we can't do it....while offering an alternative plan if reasonable. Then he goes to the person who made the promise and asks them to not commit the ward to do things that are an obvious burden and also way out of the expertise of 99% of the ward.

The best are the members that take it on themselves to perform service without checking with anyone. This happens much more often than people imagine and it's what makes being a part of a ward great.

[TripletDaddy]

I've never walked to or from church here.

[creekster]

I learned in church today

I've never walked to or from church here.

Phew. Glad THAT is cleared up!

[Moliere]

I've never walked to or from church here.

I never said you had.

[TripletDaddy]

I never said you had.

Nor did I.

[Sullyute]

There's a guy in our ward who, as part of his apartment lease agreement, is supposed to mow part of the lawn. ...
The next day I drove by and saw the bishop mowing the guys lawn.

That is a great story.

[byu71]

There's a guy in our ward who, as part of his apartment lease agreement, is supposed to mow part of the lawn. He, his wife, and his son are all on disability. He's in a motorized wheelchair and incapable of mowing. The son is an adult, but shouldn't be trusted with sharp blades, much less sharp blades moving quickly. So when the new bishop was put in, he promptly contacted the man about getting his lawn mowed each week.

Now - the previous bishop had reviewed the guys finances and told him that if he was unable to do it himself, he certainly could afford the $10 it would take to get a YM to do it for him. He also mentioned to the man that if he was incapable of mowing and didn't have the means to pay someone else to do it, maybe that wasn't the right apartment lease for him. In spite of this, the new bishop told him we would mow his lawn twice, and then he would need to make arrangements. (Never mind that he had BEEN making arrangements since the previous bishop had told him to do so.)

I was asked to set it up. I told him I'd have a YM there by the weekend to get it done. Friday I showed up with the YM, who had been busy with school and sports and unable to do it until then. And the guy goes off dropping f bombs left and right about how he needed it done earlier. I explained that it we had been unable to come sooner, etc., so he counters with "It's because of YOU that I don't come to church!" while pointing at me.

I just kind of chuckled and told him "I'm OK with that." I think it caught him off guard, so he continued with the "It's all YOUR fault I don't come!" I pointed out to him that he's lived there for more than a year and hadn't attended in more than a year either - so I'm not sure what not getting his lawn mowed soon enough this week had to do with it - and left with the YM. I told the kid not to worry about it - we wouldn't be mowing there anytime soon.

The next day I drove by and saw the bishop mowing the guys lawn.

God bless the humble, meek, turn the other cheek, servants of the Lord. One reason I never have been nor will I ever be called to a position of authority in the church is because my reply would have been. You know instead of spending time mowing your lawn, I am going to help you get your f'en name off of the churches records.

Because there are so many good people in the church who desire to have this guy and people like SU and Sooner back in the fold that they are able to take advantage of them or in the latter two's case mock and discredit the church and it's members without being told, who wants you anyway?

[Soccermom]

I learned I was apparently released from my calling but nobody bothered to tell me. Awesome.

I actually had 3 jobs--scouting advancement chair, compassionate service, and primary teacher. I asked to be released as a primary teacher because during my pregnancy I knew I would be inconsistent with my back pain and miss a lot. We have an autistic boy in the class and he needs consistency more than most, and besides, I knew I would miss several weekends for planned trips in addition to the back issues. Anyhow, I knew I got released from that calling but had no idea I was released from compassionate service (it wasn't announced when I was released from primary and nobody said anything), but I saw it in the RS bulletin when my name was no longer there. Now I wonder if they are gonna kick me out of scouts too. I don't know if it is just pregnancy hormones or what, but it really hurts. I don't understand why they couldn't have given me a simple phone call to let me know at least.

[Eddie]

I learned I was apparently released from my calling but nobody bothered to tell me. Awesome.

I actually had 3 jobs--scouting advancement chair, compassionate service, and primary teacher. I asked to be released as a primary teacher because during my pregnancy I knew I would be inconsistent with my back pain and miss a lot. We have an autistic boy in the class and he needs consistency more than most, and besides, I knew I would miss several weekends for planned trips in addition to the back issues. Anyhow, I knew I got released from that calling but had no idea I was released from compassionate service (it wasn't announced when I was released from primary and nobody said anything), but I saw it in the RS bulletin when my name was no longer there. Now I wonder if they are gonna kick me out of scouts too. I don't know if it is just pregnancy hormones or what, but it really hurts. I don't understand why they couldn't have given me a simple phone call to let me know at least.

They probably thought they were doing you a favor. If you want to keep the scouting job, I would just give them a call and let them know.

I'm sure it is disappointing, and you're right that exactly what you were being released from should've been more clear. But I wouldn't spend too much time taking offense. I'll bet they would be surprised to learn that you didn't want to be released.

[Pelado]

I learned I was apparently released from my calling but nobody bothered to tell me. Awesome.

I actually had 3 jobs--scouting advancement chair, compassionate service, and primary teacher. I asked to be released as a primary teacher because during my pregnancy I knew I would be inconsistent with my back pain and miss a lot. We have an autistic boy in the class and he needs consistency more than most, and besides, I knew I would miss several weekends for planned trips in addition to the back issues. Anyhow, I knew I got released from that calling but had no idea I was released from compassionate service (it wasn't announced when I was released from primary and nobody said anything), but I saw it in the RS bulletin when my name was no longer there. Now I wonder if they are gonna kick me out of scouts too. I don't know if it is just pregnancy hormones or what, but it really hurts. I don't understand why they couldn't have given me a simple phone call to let me know at least.

They figured they should call someone else as compassionate service leader so that you won't have to make the calls when you need help.