Originally posted by Clark Addison
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Why do you or yours hate Mother's Day
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What's to explain? It's a bunch of people, most of whom you've never met, who are just as likely to be homicidal maniacs as they are to be normal everyday people, with whom you share the minutiae of your everyday life. It's totally normal, and everyone would understand.
-Teenage Dirtbag
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Originally posted by marsupial View PostI'd like to think that by the time my children are adults, they will be able to, with enough notice and preparation, come up with 10 to 15 minutes worth of material on why I am a good mom for a Sacrament meeting talk. I realize that they could just as easily come up with 10 to 15 minutes (or more) of material on why I suck as a mother, too. I assume that the moms being heralded in the talks on Mother's Day are probably like me, and that for every inspiring story told there is the untold times when she lost her patience, forgot an important event, or spent too much time on sports message boards.
I suspect that this "Mormon Mothers' guilt" that is being discussed is not all-that-common.
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Originally posted by marsupial View PostI'd like to think that by the time my children are adults, they will be able to, with enough notice and preparation, come up with 10 to 15 minutes worth of material on why I am a good mom for a Sacrament meeting talk. I realize that they could just as easily come up with 10 to 15 minutes (or more) of material on why I suck as a mother, too. I assume that the moms being heralded in the talks on Mother's Day are probably like me, and that for every inspiring story told there is the untold times when she lost her patience, forgot an important event, or spent too much time on sports message boards.
Originally posted by Jacob View PostGood point. I've never suspected that any mother spoken of in sacrament was perfect.
I suspect that this "Mormon Mothers' guilt" that is being discussed is not all-that-common.
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Originally posted by Clark Addison View PostI suspect that it is quite common, but my opinion, as yours, may be completely off.
We actually had an EQ lesson on this Sunday, so I know it does exist. The recently called high councilor kept telling us how he's not perfect and how he's not as spiritual as he probably should be. He made a bad analogy to the time value of money and compound interest and all the spirituality he's lost by not investing in enough chapters of scripture-reading in days past. He tried to get us all to consider our own pathetic (not his word) level of spirituality. But I really don't think he really feels that bad. It's just something that is now motivating him to action.
Personally, I'm felling pretty good about my level of spirituality, though I'm sure I don't put in as much effort in scripture-reading or other churchiness as that guy.
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Originally posted by jay santos View PostIs there another parallel? Do we hate 4th of July because it makes us feel guilty about how patriotic we are?Do Your Damnedest In An Ostentatious Manner All The Time!
-General George S. Patton
I'm choosing to mostly ignore your fatuity here and instead overwhelm you with so much data that you'll maybe, just maybe, realize that you have reams to read on this subject before you can contribute meaningfully to any conversation on this topic.
-DOCTOR Wuap
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Originally posted by Art Vandelay View PostI've learned over the past several years how many Mormon women dislike Mother's Day. I'm sure the reasons are varied. Since I will be speaking for the 5th consecutive year on Mommy Dearest Day, I would like to hear what others dislike, or like, about the second Sunday in May.
For Mrs. V, the worst is hearing talks or lessons about how perfect someone's mom or wife is. It makes her feel very guilty and inadequate.
If you are not comfortable with that, I can give you some notes about fake hooters. I don't know how the womenfolk would feel, but I am thinking the menfolk would vote you to make a guest appearance on fathers day!Do Your Damnedest In An Ostentatious Manner All The Time!
-General George S. Patton
I'm choosing to mostly ignore your fatuity here and instead overwhelm you with so much data that you'll maybe, just maybe, realize that you have reams to read on this subject before you can contribute meaningfully to any conversation on this topic.
-DOCTOR Wuap
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My heart aches for the 4-5 women in our ward that can't have children of their own for medical reasons or are single. One in particular would always skip it, saying she was on-call (pediatric intensive care nurse).
I think the church exaggerates the parents role in their children's outcomes, which takes deep roots and doesn't go away. My MIL is always weepy on Mother's Day. One of her seven children has been a source of guilt for 25+ years from drug use and general douchebagery.
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Originally posted by SportUTE View PostI think the church exaggerates the parents role in their children's outcomes, which takes deep roots and doesn't go away. My MIL is always weepy on Mother's Day. One of her seven children has been a source of guilt for 25+ years from drug use and general douchebagery.
All these guilty parents should read Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids: Why Being a Great Parent is Less Work and More Fun Than You Think which goes into the very small effect parents have on their childrens' outcomes.
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My stepmother pretends to hate it as a way to get attention. The poor woman is an attention blackhole. She'll carry on about what a horrible mother she is (actually, she's an excellent mother; unfortunately (for me), she also happens to be the world's shittiest stepmother), and inevitably, everyone showers her with the attention and affirmation she needs to continue her somewhat complex, miserable existence.Jesus wants me for a sunbeam.
"Cog dis is a bitch." -James Patterson
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Originally posted by marsupial View PostI'd like to think that by the time my children are adults, they will be able to, with enough notice and preparation, come up with 10 to 15 minutes worth of material on why I am a good mom for a Sacrament meeting talk. I realize that they could just as easily come up with 10 to 15 minutes (or more) of material on why I suck as a mother, too. I assume that the moms being heralded in the talks on Mother's Day are probably like me, and that for every inspiring story told there is the untold times when she lost her patience, forgot an important event, or spent too much time on sports message boards."Socialism is a philosophy of failure, the creed of ignorance and the gospel of envy; its inherent virtue is the equal sharing of misery." - Winston Churchill
"I only know what I hear on the news." - Dear Leader
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My Mother in Law hates Mothers Day because she wants everyone to think of that awesome thing she would like to do/eat/get/hear and present it to her on Mother's Day. Unfortunately, she doesn't know what that amazingly life altering thing is that she would like to do/eat/get/hear but she'll realize what "it" is when she does it/eats it/gets it/and hears it. Unfortunately, it is impossible to meet such expectations and her children don't love her because they fail at meeting her expectations every year. Thus, she hates Mother's Day every year until about two weeks before Mother's Day when her irrational expectation takes over again.
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Originally posted by Jacob View PostCertainly does. I can't believe some people still believe the old proverb "Teach a child the way they should go and they will never depart from it." Everybody knows examples of the contrary occuring.
All these guilty parents should read Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids: Why Being a Great Parent is Less Work and More Fun Than You Think which goes into the very small effect parents have on their childrens' outcomes.
Amazon.com: Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids: Why Being a Great Parent is Less Work and More Fun Than You Think (9780465018673): Bryan Caplan: Books
To answer the OP, the thing about M-day that bugs me is the name--it's not descriptive enough to include all expected activities. My wife seems to think that it's called mother/wife/daughter/grandmother/etc. day."Seriously, is there a bigger high on the whole face of the earth than eating a salad?"--SeattleUte
"The only Ute to cause even half the nationwide hysteria of Jimmermania was Ted Bundy."--TripletDaddy
This is a tough, NYC broad, a doctor who deals with bleeding organs, dying people and testicles on a regular basis without crying."--oxcoug
"I'm not impressed (and I'm even into choreography . . .)"--Donuthole
"I too was fortunate to leave with my same balls."--byu71
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I take exception to this. I hate everything and everyone. I am not a bigot nor a respecter of persons."It's true that everything happens for a reason. Just remember that sometimes that reason is that you did something really, really, stupid."
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Originally posted by Lost_Student View PostThat book looks pretty interesting. At least the reviews made it sound like it. Where did you hear about it and would you also recommend it to non-guilty parents?
To answer the OP, the thing about M-day that bugs me is the name--it's not descriptive enough to include all expected activities. My wife seems to think that it's called mother/wife/daughter/grandmother/etc. day.What's to explain? It's a bunch of people, most of whom you've never met, who are just as likely to be homicidal maniacs as they are to be normal everyday people, with whom you share the minutiae of your everyday life. It's totally normal, and everyone would understand.
-Teenage Dirtbag
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Originally posted by Lost_Student View PostTo answer the OP, the thing about M-day that bugs me is the name--it's not descriptive enough to include all expected activities. My wife seems to think that it's called mother/wife/daughter/grandmother/etc. day.
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