Ultimate punishment for looking at porn right here

[CardiacCoug]

Just imagine this thing being circulated around the poor husband's ward and possibly workplace. What kind of way is this for Bethany to treat her husband?

Talk about a deterrent for an LDS guy to ever looking at porn -- your wife could put something like this out on the interwebs for the whole world to see.

Also, since when do people get excommunicated for looking at porn alone?

http://www.mormonwomen.com/2011/01/1...phy-hits-home/

[Flystripper]

Just imagine this thing being circulated around the poor husband's ward and possibly workplace. What kind of way is this for Bethany to treat her husband?

Talk about a deterrent for an LDS guy to ever looking at porn -- your wife could put something like this out on the interwebs for the whole world to see.

Also, since when do people get excommunicated for looking at porn alone?

http://www.mormonwomen.com/2011/01/1...phy-hits-home/

Oh brother. I find that blog more offensive than having a porn problem. Neither is a good thing but holy crap that blog is brutal.

[scottie]

He [the bishop] also said that when he looks into the pews from the podium, he can see more men who are struggling with pornography but haven’t come to him.

[NorthwestUteFan]

Poor, poor man. He didn't take the time to convince her that he needs it 4 times a week to keep his prostate healthy.

Now he risks CANCER, and it is all her fault!

He needed to call other men from his support group rather than solely leaning on me.

Talk about an awkward phone call:

"Uh, hi Joe, this is Bethany's husband. I'm feeling really weak right now. I feel the need to punch the clown but am trying to break the habit. Can you come over here and hold me?"

[YOhio]

Wow. In the article Bethany quoted her bishop saying that 14 other guys in the ward were working through some porn issues. That'd be a helluva purge if all of them were ex'ed. I'm going to go out on a limb and predict that Bethany and her husband don't make it. Not many marriages could survive a public flogging like that.

[TripletDaddy]

If you would have asked me before this actually happened, I would have said I would leave my marriage. I’d be crazy not to.

I dont understand this mentality, although I believe it to be commonplace amongst Mo women. If this is truly an addiction, why would you be crazy to not abandon the person with the addiction?

I think we talk a good game on many Christian topics, but this is one where the general consensus still has miles to go before arriving anywhere close to an actual Christian response.

Another thing that seems to be commonplace....when this issue is discussed in an LDS setting, it is almost always from the woman's viewpoint. There is a point made to emphasize fault, or lack thereof. In this article, the wife kept reminding herself that this was not her fault. It would be interesting to read from the addicts perspective. Do some men look at pornography because their wife is frigid or not meeting the husband's sexual needs? Or is this concept totally impossible?

We have become obsessed with pornography and now it has grown into a massive bogeyman. If a person looks at pornography and a spouse's initial reaction is "I'm leaving you," that strikes me as bananas. Just my opinion, of course.

[Flystripper]

We have become obsessed with pornography and now it has grown into a massive bogeyman. If a person looks at pornography and a spouse's initial reaction is "I'm leaving you," that strikes me as bananas. Just my opinion, of course.

I can't imagine anyone that actually has love for their spouse getting a divorce over a porn problem. It boggles my mind.

[myboynoah]

Just imagine this thing being circulated around the poor husband's ward and possibly workplace. What kind of way is this for Bethany to treat her husband?

Talk about a deterrent for an LDS guy to ever looking at porn -- your wife could put something like this out on the interwebs for the whole world to see.

Also, since when do people get excommunicated for looking at porn alone?

http://www.mormonwomen.com/2011/01/1...phy-hits-home/

The excommunication seems odd. He said his problem started with porn. I wonder if we aren't getting the whole story. Maybe he's a Ute Fan as well.

[NorthwestUteFan]

The unfortunate, ugly stepsister to this mentality is the 'sex is bad' or 'sex is dirty' thought process. An huge percentage of Mo women carry this guilt into marriage and it strikes me as incredibly unhealthy.

I wonder how much of this mindset is caused by the Young Women's program? They get scared straight in that class, and can carry the guilt throughout a lifetime.

Maybe he's a Ute Fan as well.

If they were Ute fans, they both would have just picked up a "somethin' somethin'" partner on the side. Get your stereotypes straight!

[PaloAltoCougar]

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Also, since when do people get excommunicated for looking at porn alone?

They don't. Reading her blog it was obvious that some very major facts are missing. I skimmed the comments and noticed that someone had asked essentially the same question (ex'd for porn?). Bethany responded: "...in the case of my husband the addiction had progressed over the years to other sexually deviant behaviors leading to his excommunication."

Personally, I found the blog repugnant. If one wants to help others by sharing one's story, do it anonymously.

[Jeff Lebowski]

Yowza. That is seriously messed up.

[DU Ute]

I don't see why you are all freaking out about her going public with this. She didn't use her last name! Very discreet!

[pellegrino]

I don't see why you are all freaking out about her going public with this. She didn't use her last name! Very discrete!

yeah, I especially like the discreet photographs. Very tastefully done.

[PaloAltoCougar]

Notice that in response to a comment that a reader feels embarrassed for her husband, the husband chimed in immediately, assuring everyone he's fine with the blog and is not humiliated by having his "deviant sexual behaviors" [her words, including the plural] made public.

He says that "The only way to change that is to put a face to it, which my wife made the hard decision to do."

Bless 'em both, and I hope they work through this, but I couldn't disagree more with the premise.

[SeattleUte]

I don't see why you are all freaking out about her going public with this. She didn't use her last name! Very discrete!

discreet.